What makes a date decent?

This is a question that I've been trying to answer for a while now. And I thought everyone had some sort of checklist for what makes a date good enough for them. So, I wanted to try to have one too, but the more people I met, the more I realised that you can't really define a decent date. Because even if you stay the same (which is hardly the case with me), the person you'll meet next could be completely different from the one you previously met. And that creates the possibility of liking an activity with someone that you hated with someone else. 

So, I've been on a few dates lately, just to realise how messed up our dating app culture is:/// - And yes, this made me not just delete the apps but also almost hate men in general, but I guess that's the story for another blog! 

Talking about the few dates I've been to, each one was really different. And just to put it out there, I love going on dates, to which my friends keep asking me "WHY?" - So, I'd like to take a chance to explain my thought process and feelings. So, here's a list of reasons:

• Dates give you a perfect opportunity to try new things. Yes, you can try new things with your friends, but I think it's about the effort. It's all about getting ready for a date and hoping your date makes some effort to plan the day/evening. I don't know how to explain this any better, but it's about how your date is almost as nervous as you because they'd also like it to go well.
• Dates help you gain perspective because you meet people and try to understand all the different kinds of men out there. 
• Dates also help you realise how different a person can be on chat and in person (yes, I've had some weird experiences there lol).
• Dates give you a chance to dress up and try out new looks (if you're into that sort of thing, haha)
• Ooh, and I completely forgot about the most important thing: finding love. But then again, I'll let you know if and when that actually happens.

  

Now, circling back to what makes a date decent - I think that recipe would look something like:

1. Chat to see if you like the personality of the person
2. Unmatch the guy if he ends up being creepy and just leads with "Are you here for hookups?"
3. Either find an activity that both of you love (like watching a newly released rom-com in the theatre) or something that none of you have tried (like beach resin art)
4. Be on time for the date!! (It sucks to be late for the first date.)
5. Talk a lil and judge the other dates around you for a vibe check - I'm just kidding (well, they might be judging you too though)
6. If you didn't have to force a conversation, maybe think of taking a walk or just sitting on the beach to talk at length. But if you did, I hope you had a backup plan to call in your friends for rescue in case things go sideways.
7. Have a lil fun with life because life is too short for boring dates!!!

And that's all for today, folks! Keep enjoying fun dates on your way to find that "True Love" you keep looking for...