Your life is going on calmly. Is that good or bad?

 Let's see where we end up with this question by the end of this blog. 

Talking about my life lately... Got tired of drama with my friends, so decided to take a break and give myself some space. Started dating (again) and that's not as bad either - I almost forgot what it feels like to go on dates where the other person is actually your friend and doesn't end up asking what my food choices are. Work has been okayish in the sense that every day, I say "I'll conquer the world as soon as I work on my resume and start applying for a job switch" before going to bed. I started living in a 1RK (that's basically a room with a mini kitchen) and god knows where all those ants are coming from in my room. Ohh yeah, and I've been getting ill a lot lately and some people would say that the weather change is the reason for my throat infection. To them, I say it's that healthy and fresh orange juice that I drank last week (I always knew healthy food items don't suit me and that's the sole reason behind me eating and drinking all the junk hehe).

Now that, we all have some context of what's going on in my life, let's get to the "Question of the day". Calmness could mean either of two things: unchaotic or peaceful. Breaking that further down, unchaotic could mean that you've recently emerged from chaos or managed to stay out of one. Peaceful, on the other hand, could mean different things to different people - you've started getting into a routine and that makes you feel more in control, you've met people who feel like home, you're at a place in your life where you always imagined yourself to be in, or you're at peace with your personal growth. 

We learn so many things about people as we grow and there's a little something that I realized recently. People often mistake calmness for boredom. We have defamed boredom all these years because most of us have grown up in households that considered being bored a waste of time. However, I believe that being bored gives us time to introspect and spend time with our thoughts and feelings. Most of us young adults are learning these ways of life. We're just trying to get by and do the right things. We're trying to live alone and not feel lonely at the same time. We want to live with our parents and being with them still isn't easy (even though we know that they're trying too). It's important to self-reflect once in a while so that we can be our own cheerleaders and remind ourselves that we're trying and even if it doesn't feel so at the moment, it'll all make sense soon.

Calmness may feel like boredom but being bored is not bad. Spending time with yourself is not bad. Unchaotic and peaceful surroundings help you heal because they force you to face those fears and address those feelings. So yes, if your life is going on calmly, I'm here to assure you that that's good! 

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.